The Bridesmaids Ask
When it comes to planning weddings there are certain things that are really, really stressful ... including deciding who to have in your wedding, and who to invite. Thankfully, I had people around me through these decisions that constantly reminded me – this is the one time in your life it's OKAY to be selfish. This is the one time in your life it really should be just about you and your partner, and what you both want.
With this in mind, David and I chose our wedding party based on the people that have been there for us through whatever, who were there when we needed them, and who we see being a part of our lives long-term.
With my bridesmaids and Matron/Man of Honor decided, I started brainstorming "ask" gifts. I knew that I wanted to do something handmade, and found this awesome tutorial (but instead of using etching cream I used gold paint ... and I couldn't find the right stencils, so I instead used puffy letters, which I had seen in a different tutorial).
When I took off the tape/letters, it was hard to keep the paint from coming off too. I had to use an exacto knife to clean up the edges – as you can see here, they're a little jagged.
To go along with these glasses, which we'll use on the wedding day, I also crafted up some homemade cards.
I started by using watercolors to make the background, and then ATTEMPTED to do traditional calligraphy, but I'm really not picking it up. So, instead I just wrote out their names and did a makeshift calligraphy look by hand.
Finally, I got a little can of Sophia and put together a little ask gift! (I think these Sofia cans are SO cute!)
I'll be the first to admit that they're far from perfect, but they were fun and personalized!
I am learning a lot about myself as I plan our wedding. It's hard not to feel guilty when deciding who to invite, and who to have as a part of your wedding party. It's especially hard for us because we have a hard cap on the number of people that can fit in our venue. But I am learning that even though it's really easy for me to feel guilty, I have a really solid core around me that helps to clear my mind.
This is so corny, but I remember this scene in Bride Wars (yup. It's happening. I'm paraphrasing Bride Wars.) where they say that planning a wedding can either bring out the conflict or harmony in a relationship, and I feel like David and I have just gotten closer through some of the curveballs thrown at us while planning our wedding. I'll be honest, certain things have really sucked, but I feel more confident than ever in the people I'm closest to and the fella I get to marry.