Enjoying the Process
I am the stereotypical type A person. I haveee to be in control! So, when it came to getting engaged, I hate that nothing was in my control. Yes, I could have been a modern woman and proposed to David myself, but I knew he had something planned, and I honestly was excited to see what he had planned ... but I wanted it to be on MY time table!
David and I originally went ring shopping about two years in to our relationship (so in early 2015), and were planning on getting engaged that spring, but due to some extenuating circumstances we ended up having to push our engagement. Soooo... I knew it was coming, but I never knew when!
When David got in to Northwestern and we found out we were going to be moving to Chicago, I kind of made it pretty clear that I needed a big 'ol commitment before moving across country – to a city that I love, and where I have a lot of family, but no job, and no career prospects.
So, knowing that we would be moving soon, I started to get REALLY anxious about when we would get engaged. Any time when went out I was such a typical girl and was like, "IS THIS IT?!?! IS IT HAPPENING?!"
Well, apparently David had a whole thing planned where he invited our families into town, and had mapped out a route for us to meet them on the Houston bayou near our house. He was even going to bring my FAVORITE THING IN THE WORLD, our dog Austin.
David told me that we were going to meet our good friends for dinner at Brooklyn Athletic Club, so I started to get ready. Well, of course, just a few hours before we were supposed to it starts pouring. Little did I know, David was having a straight up panic attack because all of his plans went south!
David called his brother and dad, and they immediately got in to action on creating a plan B. On our end, David just told me that his brother called and was in town from New York, and we needed to pick him up from his hotel to come to dinner with us. We get to the hotel and I walk in to the lobby, and David started acting SO weird! He started telling the concierge, "my brother is Spencer. I'm here to meet my brother Spencer!" and I was just like, "umh, you need to give him more information?" Eventually the concierge is like, "Oh yes, he's in a private room ... let me take you to him!" So we walk back, and Spencer is no where to be found.
This private room was decorated gorgeously, so I just assume we're in the wrong room, and keep on walking! Next thing I know, David is ON. HIS. KNEE.
And just like that, I was engaged. Of course, because I am SUCH an adult, the words that came out of my mouth after "YES!!!" were "Is my mom here?!"
And David, knowing me SO well, said, "Yes!" and our families came in to the room, along with our wonderful photographer who captured the first moments of our engagement.
From here David told me we were going to dinner with our families, and would meet up with our friends later to celebrate.
But, again, David was fullll of surprises. We actually did make it to Brooklyn Athletic Club, and all of our best Houston friends were waiting there to congratulate us. It was THE best feeling. We are so loved.
It was truly the best day I have had so far in my life. I've never felt so special and loved, and I wish I could live the day over and over again.
So, here's my advice to girls excited to get engaged: Enjoy the process! I know, I know. People told me this all the time, and I really wish I would have listened more. As happy as I was, I woke up and realized I'm never going to get engaged again! Haha! Looking back, I wish I would have calmed down a little bit, and been more present for the stages of our relationship right before our engagement.
With that said, it truly was the best day so far, and I am doing my best to enjoy the engagement process itself (and keep my type A personality at bay). I am consciously trying to live each day to the fullest!
Thanks for asking me to marry you, David :) Ten months to go!